#7: Respect the rights of other individuals.
Finally, when you have good responsibility, you respect the rights of other individuals. When there is interpersonal strain and difficulty, you realize, “That other person, no matter what difficulty we might have had, they’re struggling with their life too. I want to see if we can create a sense of togetherness and community as much as possible. Let’s see if we can pool our resources so that we’re not working against each other, but there’s a feeling of community that’s there.”
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Now, I put all these things out and say, “That’s what responsible people do.” When you engage with a narcissist, it’s like, “Nope, I don’t do that. I don’t take responsibility for me. You have to be responsible to make me feel better about my life.” Let’s underscore this really strongly: responsible people don’t make excuses. Responsible people show up. Responsible people are loyal but not dutiful about their loyalty. Responsible people genuinely want to know you and how they fit with you. Responsible individuals know when to lay down their ego. Responsible people are not afraid of words like “I was wrong” or “Please forgive me.” Responsible people don’t go around creating divisiveness. Responsible people don’t create drama. Responsible people are known for having steady emotions because they work at it. Responsible people don’t gripe, criticize, and complain excessively. Responsible people are consistent. Responsible people are disciplined, and most of all, responsible people are trustworthy.
So, if you’re trying to figure out if this person you’re engaging with is narcissistic or not, watch how they respond when it’s time for them to say, “I have to take responsibility.” With them, individual responsibility is fleeting at best. It’s erratic. It’s consistently inconsistent. And you know what? It’s always someone else’s fault, isn’t it? I hope that you can decide, “Well, despite their tendency, I’m going to take my cues in an opposite kind of way, and I am going to be that responsible person.” To me, that would be a very strong indicator that says you’ve got this narcissism pattern figured out and you’re moving in the right direction.
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