3. Projections
If the love bombing and the gaslighting don’t work, typically, they will slide right into some good old-fashioned projections. Now, they will start accusing you of doing the exact things they are guilty of doing, they didn’t do that, you did.
Having a narcissist project the things they are guilty of is a maddening experience, to say the least. They are baiting you into going around and around with them, so do not take the bait and start defending yourself against these blatant lies because that is exactly what the narcissist wants you to do. They know that if they can get you into defensive mode, that they will be and be able to manipulate you much easier. So whatever you do, don’t take the bait.
4. Leveling.
If the love-bombing gaslighting and projections don’t work, they will usually go into something called leveling. Leveling is a tactic that they use to try and get you to believe some of your past behavior is just as bad as what they have done or worse, which is usually a flat-out lie or gross exaggeration.
However, it’s a powerful tool and can be highly effective if you are a highly empathetic person who is easily manipulated by guilt or shame. If they can get you to believe that you are as bad as they are, then they know these realizations you have come to will likely evaporate.
Do not succumb to their attempts at leveling. If you are dealing with a narcissist and you are an empath, I don’t care what you’ve done in your past. You are not the same kind of person as someone with a narcissistic personality disorder. So stay strong and stay grounded in the reality that you know is true.
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