4. Don’t underestimate the power of narcissism.
Don’t underestimate the power of narcissism or the power they have over you. Narcissists have spent a lifetime manipulating other people to their own benefit. They have spent years learning how to devalue and take advantage of other people. It’s very easy to fall back into their trap, into their web of control. So you need to be aware of this and win enough that you start to feel weak, or you start to feel them taking control of this situation. Removing yourself is my advice. Take a break from it and regroup. There is no time limit on how we get this message to them.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Again, this is usually a very difficult process for highly empathetic people, So be gentle and kind to yourself during this process. It will likely take several attempts for things to get resolved. Don’t be hard on yourself. If you fail the first few times, take a break, regroup, and try again. With each try, you will become more and more confident with the process.
5. You must understand that good boundaries include consequences.
This is part of it. And when and if your boundaries are not honored, then people in your life need to know there is a price that will have to be paid for that. Therefore, you need to give some thought and consideration to what the consequences will be, when/and if your boundaries are violated.
This is important because if you know what the consequences are ahead of time, then you won’t be able to be thrown off guard by the narcissist. You might even choose to tell the narcissist what the consequences will be for any boundary violations, then there’s no way they can say, they didn’t know, they didn’t understand this was going to happen.
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