On the other hand, there are those Narcissists who become obsessed and refuse straight out of the gate to let your absence slide. Some can succumb to their addictions and just lose the will to live. Others make it their life purpose to try and get you back or just make it impossible for you to move on. So, this can lead to them carrying out certain desperate acts like creating fake social media accounts to make contact with you or stalking your every movement. Showing up at your house, your job, and places that you frequent.
Because when a narcissist is not finished with someone or still competing with someone, they just need to know what is going on in their lives. So, even if they don’t speak to you, just knowing what you are up to and letting you know that they are lurking is important to them.
The Narcissist would also deny to themselves and others that they are the ones who pushed you away and that something therefore must be wrong with you. And that will be their excuse to reach out to you to make sure that you are ok. They would spew this lie to family and friends, hoping someone is able to put them in contact with you or let you know about their feigned concern for you.
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This is to provoke you to reach out to them to clarify or provide closure but any conversation with a Narcissist is a trap. They may also use this opportunity to give one of their fake general apologies. Whatever it is they did they are sorry. Or they are sorry that you feel the way that you feel, etc. The Narcissist just needs to have a way of communicating with you so that they can get into your head again and make you feel guilty or doubt yourself.
This is all done to try to wheel you back in, only to hurt you and later discard you because that is what the Narcissist wants. They want to be the one in control. They want to be the ones calling the shots. So, if you ever take back a Narcissist after you discarded them or went No Contact, you will be later discarded and blocked. It is important to understand that a Narcissist can hate you and be angry with you but still beg for you to come back and still smile on your face while pretending everything is ok.
These people are delusional, persistent, and dangerous. In the mind of the Narcissist, it is only about how dare you to do this to them. How dare you walk away from them. How dare you block or disappear on them. So, they are only thinking about getting you back so that they can punish you. The Narcissist will never forgive you for going No Contact and they will always be hoping to be able to execute some sort of revenge. Because although they try to deny that you’ve gone No Contact and the reasons why you have; they will never forget how it made them feel and it is all your fault.
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But to conclude, going no contact can free you from the Narcissist’s control. It can help you to heal and recover from Narcissistic Abuse. It can allow you to flourish outside of a toxic relationship. The Narcissist knows the impact they have on our lives. They know how their presence and influence can keep us back, make us sick, and just overall stunted. They know their game is only effective if they can manipulate us.
So, when we break ties with a Narcissist physically and emotionally, we are taking away their control and we are telling them we do not need them. And as much as they may try to deny this reality, they still have to deal with the consequences and the fact that they have lost a source of supply.
The Narcissist needs you more than you need them. So, every source of supply that disconnects from the Narcissist is a loss in their book and Narcissists hate losing. Therefore, they can never forget those that walk away from them.
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