Well, for Narcissists, it means that they intend to study you. When they study you, they learn your likes, your dislikes, and your beliefs; but they also want to know your desires, your dreams and your secrets.
1. Your Likes, Dislikes, and Beliefs.
When it comes to knowing your likes, dislikes and beliefs, it is all about being able to mimic you. They would pretend to have the same interests as you. They will pretend to be on your level by creating a bond of being able to see things eye to eye. It is also about appearing relatable, wanting to be that perfect fit who understands you on so many levels. The Narcissist is also bound to be more agreeable.
So, if you disagree with any of their opinions or beliefs, they will happily adjust to make you happy. The Narcissist can be very flexible during the love-bombing phase, and they work extra hard to keep their mask in place.
2. Your Dreams and Desires.
When it comes to your dreams and desires, the Narcissist will look to fulfil what they can. You need to remember that their objective is to win you over and keep you happy. So, for many Narcissistic relationships during the love-bombing phase, your wish is the Narcissist’s command. And whatever they are unable to do, they will try to convince you that your dreams are now their dreams and that they will do what they can to make it happen.
This is where the future-faking can also come into play. Narcissists are already big dreamers and big talkers, so they can be quite convincing when it comes to planning for the future. This is something I discussed in this article, where I refer to it as one of the cruellest games that they play.
Because not only are they messing with your present, but they are also messing with your future. And the longer they can drag you along, thinking that they actually care about you is time that you will never get back and your dreams will never be a reality, at least not how you want it, whenever a Narcissist is involved.
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