1. Refusing to engage or fight back.
Narcissists need intensity, chaos, drama, and a target, someone to project all of their deeply buried self-loathing, guilt, and shame onto.
When you refuse to engage, when you refuse to fight back, when all of their chaos, drama, criticism, verbal attacks, projections of all of their, again, deeply buried, subconscious, self-loathing, shame, guilt, all of that, right? When that’s coming at you and all of it is met with a completely flat line, non-emotion, non-reactivity, a completely blank stare, their stuff has nowhere to land.
They have nowhere to project all of that garbage onto, therefore they can’t unburden themselves, which is typically what’s really going on. They need to unburden themselves from the load they carry subconsciously predominantly onto a chosen target, onto someone else. So when you refuse to get into the ring with them, to roll around in the mud with them, when you refuse to engage or fight back, that shit’s coming at you has nowhere to land and tends to land somewhere over there instead.
And all of a sudden, the narcissist realizes that they are powerless over you. And nothing will drive a narcissist crazy, nothing will cause a narcissist to lose their mind faster than realizing they are powerless over you. Powerless to manipulate you, powerless to affect you, and powerless to control you.
2. Demonstrating that you don’t care.
Not just with words, but with action, behavior, and every choice you make. When you show a narcissist that their opinion has zero sway over you, that their antics, control dramas, power dynamics, toxic gossip, loyalty conflicts they’re busy creating, perceptions they’re busy trying to manipulate and control, all the nonsense that they got going on, can you imagine going through life like that? In any event, when you show them that you couldn’t care less, you’re completely unaffected, not the slightest bit interested or bothered in any way, that kinda blows their mind a little, maybe a lot.
Because the truth is, they don’t know what to do with that. When you’re busy living your life, better yet living a good life, really happy, productive, thriving, feeling good, doing well, doing your thing, minding your own business, and the narcissist can see that you’re not the least bit interested in or curious about them, what they’ve got going on, what they’re going through, what they’ve been through, any other nonsense has zero poles, zero sway, zero effect, you couldn’t care less. That causes a narcissist to lose their mind.
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