1. Love bombing
If you have been in a romantic relationship with one of them, the hoover is likely to be a ton of love bombing. It might be chock full of I love you, I can’t believe I gave up on you, I’m sorry, etc. Don’t forget narcissists will apologize when they are backed into a corner. I’ll never take you for granted again. It might be poetry or sending love songs like I mentioned the one did to me from before. But if you have been in a romantic relationship with one and you get hoovered, you can count on tons and tons of love bombing.
2. Accidentally running into you!
Another super common hoover and one that is more common for covert narcissists to use is accidentally running into you. Oh my God, what a coincidence? Who would have guessed you would all of a sudden run into the narcissist in the parking lot of your work, or at your favorite restaurant, or at the gym you work out at.
Narcissists are famous for using this hoover maneuver because it saves face if you reject them. If you maintain no contact and keep on moving when they accidentally run into you, then they won’t have as much on the line if they reach out to you directly. So please, hear my warning when you accidentally run into a narcissist that you recently split up from, there’s a 99.9 % chance this is no accident, this is a full-on hoover.
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