Number 2: Create a new identity from the inside out.
Get clear on your self-image, who you identify as, the victim, the survivor, the problem. Although those of us who have been severely narcissistically abused have certainly been victimized, and we’ve survived people, places, and things that the average human cannot even fathom. In addition, we’ve been so gaslit and scapegoated our entire lives, it can take us years to dis-identify from being the problem. And although all of that may be true, ask yourself what else is true.
What else is true is, you get to decide not only who you are from this very moment forward, but who you are going to be, and whom you’re becoming. Deciding exactly who that is and choosing to identify as that new version of yourself is something you can do. It’s a matter of choice, simply making the decision. Now, needless to say, there’s going to be some subconscious programming that’s likely to get in your way and trip you up.
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So although I firmly believe in the power of a firm and decisive decision, the reality is, embodying and becoming this new up-leveled version of yourself is going to take some concerted effort and work. There’s that word again. Consciousness is work friends. There’s no way around it, in any event. It’s going to take a commitment on your part as you unravel and unpack all the lies you’ve been fed about yourself over what’s likely been decades. Burn that shit to the ground and again, rise from the ashes. This doesn’t happen by accident.
Again, it takes work, commitment to the process, the process of reprogramming your subconscious and getting crystal clear and moving forward until you fully embody the new you, the real you, the you you were always meant to be before you took on and believed all the lies from the devil. And although there are very specific things you can do to make this happen for yourself while overriding any self-sabotage programs and patterns you might be running, it’s actually not as difficult or as complicated as it sounds. You just have to be willing to do the work.
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