First of all, as I said before, understand exactly what is this. It’s an abuse and manipulation tactic used to punish and control you, and the narcissist’s only concern is winning. At the end of the day, it really has nothing to do with anything that you did or did not do wrong.
1. It is not your fault
So the first thing you need to understand is that this is not your fault. Don’t obsess and spend hours reviewing your behavior, searching endlessly for what you could have said or done to cause this reaction. This is not your fault. This is simply how people like this operate.
2. Do not engage or participate in the game
If you react the way they are wanting, all you’re doing is rewarding them for their abusive and cruel behavior. This is not your fault. You are not responsible for them reacting this way, although, that’s exactly what they want you to believe, and you have absolutely nothing to apologize for. So don’t apologize, don’t engage with this behavior.
In my opinion, you should think of the silent treatment, not so much as a punishment, but rather of a much-deserved vacation. You can get a break from all the other crap and the abuse that comes with a narcissist when they’re talking.
So in my opinion, live it up, don’t let it upset you, find other people to spend your time with, go out and do things, but don’t wait by the phone or beg and plead for it to end because all that does is give them exactly what they want, and will embolden them to continue to do this in the future. That will infuriate the narcissist, it will infuriate them beyond belief, and hopefully, the result will be that they will realize these games aren’t going to work with you.
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