I’m hoping you would be able to say that one of the primary goals that you have in your personal life is to be as healthy psychologically as you can possibly be. Part of that healthiness that you would bring to any relationship is that you would want your presence in another person’s life to be an uplifting experience. It’s not that complicated, and it’s not that profound of a thought until we begin realizing how many people don’t think that way.
Now, when we talk specifically about individuals who have a strong narcissistic bent, they have such a powerful need to be in control. They have such a low empathy towards other individuals. They have such an attitude of entitlement that we can’t really expect them to approach you with that healthy mindset. Instead, the narcissists think that you’re supposed to help them prop up an image of what they want to be and they want to maintain control over you. They want to stay in the superior position over you. And so, one of the things that happens is not only will they attempt to build themselves up at your expense, that’s bad enough, but beyond that, narcissists can actually make it their goal to say, “I’m going to break you.” And it’s one of the most insidious ways of thinking that we can have.
And like I say, it’s not enough for them to just say, “Okay, we differ and maybe we’re not going to be a good match.” It’s like, “No, if I can destroy you, then that enhances my well-being.” If you can even think of that as being any kind of logic whatsoever. And frankly, it pains me when I know that there are individuals who think this way. And I know that many of you have been on the receiving end of it.
So what I want to do today is I want to point out some of the tactics that these individuals use as they attempt to break you. They want you to be a shell of who you are. The more you’re onto their tactics, then the more you’re going to be able to sidestep that and go with your better alternatives.
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