5. Silent treatments.
Sometimes, the only thing the narcissist can do is be silent. If they know that the situation doesn’t warrant a certain reaction, they have no choice but to be quiet. They have to accept it. But the silent treatment is also designed to punish you, it’s a control tactic. It’s designed to make you question yourself, and it’s designed to make you feel like you’ve done something wrong.
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6. Triangulation.
When you cause a narcissistic injury, it affects the narcissist’s sense of worth. It makes them feel like they’re not good enough. It makes them feel like they’re at fault, which is something the narcissist doesn’t want to accept, so they run from the situation. It may seem like they’re running from you, but they’re actually running from themselves.
It may seem like they found someone else, but they’ve actually just found someone who reflects back to them this ideal version of themselves. Someone who validates their false self, someone who supports the illusion, and this is what they then reflect back to you. It’s meant to hurt you, to make you regret your decision, and it’s meant to make you blame yourself because now that we’re someone else who doesn’t see anything wrong with them.
It might make you second guess yourself, think you made a mistake, but you didn’t make a mistake. This new person has been manipulated by the narcissist, just as you were when you first met them. They don’t know what they’re really like, but the narcissist will use this to hurt you and make you feel like you’re at fault.
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