3. By sabotaging other people’s success.
Again, this can happen in a variety of different ways, but you get the sense that there’s some underlying jealousy here. And that leads us to the reason why a covert narcissist will sabotage someone else’s success, and that’s because they see you as a threat. You may see evidence of this if a covert narcissist sees somebody in the room who’s more attractive than them or someone who’s smarter than them, they’re likely to go into overdrive to try to pick that person apart and maybe come up with things from that person’s past to make people see them in a light that’s not as favorable.
When someone is having their moment to shine, a covert narcissist is going to do everything they can to dull that sparkle. And I know that you guys have dealt with this too. So, let’s look at one of the comments.
‘Narcissists will do anything to undermine your self-confidence. And if they succeed, their taking over of the person’s life is just a matter of time. We must not let them get us to a place where we feel lost. That is so true, and unfortunately, it’s easier than most people think to lose yourself in relationships like these. But the good news is that all is never lost. You can always get back to you.’
So another commenter says, ‘Realizing you’re surrounded by family and people who do not have your best interest at heart and may even be trying to undermine you is a big wakeup call. It seems like a bitter pill, but it is actually a blessing in disguise.’
So if you ask me, it’s always better whenever possible to focus on the lessons instead of the pain because if you focus on the events of what happened without focusing on the lessons, it’s only going to continue to bring that pain up again and again. It’s going to keep that wound open.
4. Rage.
The next way that a covert narcissist will tell on themselves is through rage whenever they’re caught in a lie. And if you’ve been with a covert narcissist long enough, you probably have a good idea of what I’m talking about. It’s almost like it becomes their tell.
And another spin on this, it’s a little bit different but similar, is rage whenever they hear the word no. So if you don’t give them exactly what they want, even if it’s something small, if they really want it and they feel entitled to it, you’re definitely going to see some steam coming out of their ears.
Related: Top 3 Reasons Narcissists Rage at their Victims.
So if they are always raging out about the same topic from nowhere, from zero to a thousand, they just fly completely off the handle, take note of the topics that send them over the edge. You’re probably poking at some shame, and the shame could be about the truth. Maybe they did something that they’re ashamed of, and so you’re poking that shame button, and they’re exploding because narcissists cannot handle their own shame. That is essentially why they’re narcissists. They build up this false persona to protect themselves from this shame demon that they’re trying to keep in the dungeon.
But if you already have suspicions that this person is lying to you and you’re getting that rage reaction when you ask certain questions, I’m not going to tell you what to do, but I’ll tell you if it were me, if I were in your shoes today, I would take that as confirmation. All the confirmation and validation that I need to know that that person is absolutely lying.
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