#3: You are crazy.
Another thing that narcissists often say to shift blame and keep you under control is that you’re crazy, and maybe you’re jealous. This will often come up when the narcissist is cheating. They might say, “Well, of course you’re gonna act that way,” or “Of course you’re gonna say that ’cause you’re just crazy and you’re jealous.”
This can even come out just when you ask a simple question like, “Where were you yesterday when you went… and you weren’t answering my texts?” Or “What did you do when you were at your ex’s house?” Simple questions that an emotionally healthy person who isn’t hiding anything would have no trouble answering. But a narcissist who is hiding something is going to turn it around on you, so they’re going to make it so you’re defending yourself, so they don’t have to answer the question.
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#4: Here we go again.
Another thing that you’re likely to hear from a narcissist in an argument, or even whenever you’re pointing out something that they need to change, is, “Oh, here we go again,” insert eye roll right? They can’t be bothered. You’re bringing up the same things again and again because there are problems that an emotionally healthy person would recognize and work on. But the narcissist does not recognize them and does not work on them. So you do end up repeating yourself; you end up beating your head against the wall to try to get this person to see what is so clear and so plain. But they won’t do it. They can’t do it. So whenever you bring up the same thing again, it’s not really that you’re bringing up the same thing again. The problem is that the same thing is happening again, but they don’t see it again, and they don’t take responsibility for it.
So they’re gonna try and turn it around on you and say, “Well, oh, here you go again, bringing up this old stuff.” And they might say something like, “I thought we resolved this already.” That kind of response makes you wonder because you’re thinking, “Well, yeah, I did, but then you’re doing the same thing again,” and I’m confused. But again, they’re turning it back around on you so they don’t have to take responsibility for their bad behavior. And if you’re questioning yourself, they have you under control.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
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