Number 5: Seek professional help.
As mentioned in the beginning, every relationship is different and that can be difficult. You may feel alone and that no one truly understands what you are going through. Sometimes none of your friends or loved ones happened to have gone through the pain of emotional abuse and you understand you can’t fault them for that. If you are a victim of narcissistic abuse and you feel like you need help processing these emotions and you are alone, it may be time to seek professional help for this. Victims, at times, will refuse professional help because they see it as a sign of weakness or think they are fine doing it on their own.
Taking the step to getting professional help is very difficult and it takes a strong person to do that. Professionals can help relay information that they have learned through helping other victims or what they learned experiencing it themselves. Some of the ideas they try to impart to their patients are setting boundaries, having no contact with the abuser if they have the ability, recognizing their lowest and highest points, and helping them move from low to high. These tips and tricks, coming from professionals, maybe the key to your successful healing of the narcissistic abuse you endured. One aspect of a narcissistic relationship or marriage that seems to be the most difficult to heal from is trauma bonding.
Recommended: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Trauma bonding is the relationship between a narcissist and their victim. The relationship is difficult for outside parties to understand because the victim starts to grow sympathy and deep feelings for their abuser. Many people who have not had to experience trauma bonding can’t fathom why a victim would feel bad for their abuser and can sometimes grow to feel resentment towards the victim. Something we commonly hear from friends or family is, “Well, I can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.”
Seeking professional help after finding yourself deep in a trauma-bonding relationship may be the emotional support you need. Professionals understand how hard trauma bonding can be to break. They also know it takes quite a bit of time to break down those feelings of need and attachment the victim has with their abuser. That’s why it’s sometimes better to seek professional help when these feelings run very deep like the ones you may be experiencing now.
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