#1: Approach Avoidance.
Approach avoidance simply means that when you approach them to have intim@cy, they will always say no. It is guaranteed they won’t let things happen on your terms because they have to have it their way. They have to have power and control over you, so why would they agree? But tables are turned, and things are twisted when they want it from you. If they feel like having s£x, you have to give in. You have to say yes regardless of how you’re feeling and what you are trying to recover from. Maybe you just got surgery, and only two days have passed. Your wounds are still fresh; you’re trying to recover and get hold of your life. This narcissistic partner of yours demands s£x. You can’t say no, and they show no empathy whatsoever towards you then. And if you say no to them, they threaten you with cheating. They make it seem like they are going to step out of this relationship to meet their physical needs.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
But what about yours? What about your physical needs when you want to fulfill them? Oh, they do not matter to a narcissist. You can’t have any, for you were created to only fulfill their needs. Being always rejected, and having to hear “no” all the time makes you feel worthless. You feel like you’re not attractive enough, you’re too thin or too fat, or there is something wrong with your body, or you smell. These thoughts naturally come to your mind when you’re not desired by your partner.
When they turn their face against you and give you a pushback, making it seem like they don’t want it when you want it, you truly start thinking that there is something wrong with you that you need to fix. And you try that. You lose weight, you gain weight, you change how you dress, you change how you smell, and still nothing. Nothing fixes the situation.
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