Number 5: They get drunk, use drugs, and visit adult websites.
They feed their fantasies. That’s why they cannot be intimate with you because their fantasies of how physical intimacy should be are out of this world, based on pure imagination and nothing else. They feed their narcissistic false self, and it stimulates them mentally in a way that reality cannot because they are disconnected from it. When they are present in reality with you, they run away from everything since they don’t want to feel vulnerable. Looking at a screen and looking at random people does not require them to be vulnerable, so that’s exciting for them. They get heavily drunk and/or high and call you to tell you all the bizarre things. Either it can be love bombing unexpectedly, uncalled for, or it can be an extreme form of devaluation. You would not know what happened, but it is the time to stroke their ego, and the best way to do that is to experience a high so that they do not have to feel the low of their true self, of their true identity.
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When they are left on their own, the tendency is to get in touch with that shame, with that insecurity of theirs, with that rotten, fallen, fragmented self. They don’t want to go there; it’s suffocating for them. It smells, it’s pungent, so they would run away and can find anything, any reason to do that. They cannot sit in their own shade; they run away from their shadow, and their shadow is really dark and dense. Their life is all about pretending to be somebody or something that they are not, which is where that extreme self-hatred comes from. Even though they may seem to be the most self-loving, it is the opposite. It’s rooted in self-hatred, which is what they take out on you.
All in all, a narcissist does not cope well when left alone on their own. They cannot stand their presence; it eats them alive.
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