Number 5: “Why can’t you forget about it and move on?”
Narcissists expect you to overlook their abusive behavior. They want you to keep accepting the abuse without even questioning, without even raising a concern. They want you to just get along with it and pretend that there is nothing wrong with their behavior. They expect you to just keep going with their behaviors because you are their slave. This is how they see you. They see you as an object to play with. Rather, you are seen as an extension of them, which means they can treat you in whatever way possible and do whatever they want to.
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What they are saying in this sentence is, “I want you to accept my unacceptable behavior and see it as a mistake that I made because of you, which means now you have to forgive yourself for making me do it. The problem is not my abuse. You see, the problem is that you are not getting along with it. The problem is that you are not taking it and accepting it. The problem is that you do not understand that you deserve it.”
Now that you have an in-depth understanding of what they see and what it means, it’s also important to understand that these things can be said with a non-abusive intention. For example, if the narcissist never lets you speak and you say, “You never let me speak, you never let me speak and finish it,” it would be the right thing to say and do. All of these statements and sayings are neutral by their nature, and it depends on the context of how, when, and where they are said and used. If you have said or used one of these statements with a non-abusive intention, that does not make you a narcissist.
Read More: 5 Weaknesses All Narcissists Have But Don’t Want You To Know.
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