Number 1: “It’s for your good.”
This behavior is a tricky way for them to justify their actions and control you, while pretending to be helpful. It’s a tactic often used by covert narcissists. They might say things like, “I’m just worried about you,” but that’s not their true intention. They’re actually hiding their real motives. These people want to make it seem like they care about you and what’s best for you, but it’s just a trick to bring you down. Whether they’re speaking negatively to your face or subtly putting you down, their words reveal their true intentions. They want to make you feel small while pretending to care and be concerned.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
So, let’s say you’re rocking a dress and everyone’s telling you how amazing you look. But then, you ask a narcissist what they think. Don’t be surprised if they knock down your confidence by saying something like, “That dress? It’s not really you. Are you sure you wanna wear that?” And it’s not just about what you wear. Let’s say you’re excited about hanging out with your friends. A narcissist might try to put you off by saying, “Them? They’re not really good company for you.” But chances are, it’s not true. Rather, they’re just trying to isolate you on purpose. Then there’s your career. If you’re all fired up about a certain career path, a narcissist might try to cool your enthusiasm and dissuade you. But it’s not because your dream job isn’t doable. It’s just that they like seeing you less passionate about your stuff.
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