13. Don’t Fall In Love With Them.
Try as much as you can to not enter into any kind of relationship with narcissists beyond what is absolutely and strictly necessary. Set healthy boundaries; narcissists are incapable of fulfilling your feelings and desires. They don’t see you as someone who exists outside of their needs.
14. Never Expect An Apology.
It’s okay to expect the other person to show that they know that they have offended you because apologies validate your feelings. While apologies can’t take away the pain or humiliation, it’s usually an important first step towards healing.
When people don’t apologize, it’s easy to begin to second-guess yourself. You can wonder, “did he really mean that or am I overreacting?” When dealing with a narcissist, remember that your healing and well-being is the least of their concern. In fact, they feed off this uncertainty to take advantage of your empathy and pull you back in.
15. Don’t Buy Into The Narcissist’s Version of Who You Are.
Narcissists don’t live in reality, and that includes their view of you. You’re just a source of their insatiable supply and when you’re not, then you’re simply not valuable to their world. So they’ll belittle you and use your weaknesses to prove it. Narcissists capitalize on self-devaluation. They pick it up from what you say.
For example, if you say, “I did that all wrong, my boss won’t be pleased with that submission.” They’ll say, “let’s hope he cuts you some slack.” It sounds right, but a narcissist won’t take time to affirm the things you did right in that assignment. When they do it like that, you can’t call them out. This last one is probably the hardest thing to get over but it’s possible with therapy and continuously affirming yourself.
Read More: 10 Behaviors Of People Who’ve Been Mentally Abused By Narcissists.
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