4. Don’t Justify Their Behaviors.
Narcissistic behaviors are peculiar and disturbing. You’ll often hear that they lashed out at a colleague or they picked a fight over who won the ball game. Sometimes, you’ll witness these behaviors and you’ll see a sense of entitlement all over the narcissist like the other person deserved it.
Narcissists don’t know how to apologize. If they do, they follow it up with a “but”, explaining why it was still the right thing for them to do. It’s usually a pattern that you can’t ignore.
5. Try Not to Insist On Your Point of View.
Narcissists can only handle their perspective. They do things based on how they feel and what they get in return. When attacked, the natural instinct is to defend themselves and prove that they were right. Arguing the point may escalate the situation in a very unpleasant way.
It’s important to speak up but try not to get stuck explaining or second-guessing your moves. Be subtle but specific and consistent with what you need. Even so, chances are they will not understand or care about your opinions. Don’t waste your breath; you can tell the narcissist you disagree with their assessment, then move on.
6. Never Give Them a Second Chance.
Narcissists hate losing their supply, so they won’t let you go easily. If you leave the relationship, be prepared for begging and pleading. It’s the same old grandstanding cues, saying the right things that matter to you. They’ll call up your family and friends to get in touch with you. They’ll definitely contact you on significant dates on your calendar like your birthday or anniversaries.
All these charming gestures don’t compensate for the fact that a narcissist doesn’t know what it means to miss someone. They keep admirers close to maintain a constant supply of the attention they want. They’re only back because they think they can leverage you to meet their needs.
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