Number 12: Not really nice, it was a hook.
You will discover that they are not nice at all. Their apparent charm was nothing more than a hook to lure you in and then it’s leverage, it’s social leverage, it’s reputation leverage to get you to do more of what they want you to do for them. And you will feel more instrumentalized and utilized and tired and exhausted and ultimately betrayed across time.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Number 13: What you want to hear.
They are very good at telling you exactly what it is that you want to hear. But over time, you will notice they are more consistently effective at taking more than they have been offered, at stretching or breaking into personal boundaries and fundamentally being exploitative. Over time, you will find the experience of being with them more and more exhausting and less and less uplifting.
Number 14: The mask slips.
When they really think they’ve got you and they can’t be bothered putting up the facade anymore, the mask will slip. You’ll see all of that charming apparent extroversion descend into a self-pitying victimhood narrative in which they are the center of their own tragedy, in which they’ve never been recognized for the amazing things that they’ve done and all the amazing things they’ve given to people. They’re extremely negative in the core. All of that happiness, all of that cheerfulness, all of that ebullience and charm was nothing but froth. It was just a front to get you close enough to draw you in. And then finally, you will be able to see the real person, a cowardly, self-pitying degenerate child.
Read More: 8 Lies ALL Narcissists Tell.
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