6. Things That Are Out of Their Control.
Could you have done anything to help it? Narcissists are control freaks who spend their lives trying to keep things just the way they like them. Their deep desire for control stems from the feeling of helplessness and insecurity they have deep down. So to hide this away, they try to control everything around them. But when anything goes wrong, they always find someone to blame. Usually, it is an empath who takes it all. They are blamed for everything bad that happens, even for things that are way beyond their control.
Usually, empaths just say they are sorry to try and appease the narcissist and keep them calm. But this is not a good idea, as it only allows them to continue doing what they are doing. Empaths should learn to identify and analyze the situations they are in and separate their emotions from rational thought so that when they are being blamed, they can confidently defend themselves.
DR.Ramani Durvasula: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist.
5. Saying No.
Can you say no when you want to? Being helpful is one main characteristic of empaths. This stems from their natural compassionate and generous nature. But this wonderful trait they have is often what narcissists use against them. When a narcissist sees an empath who loves helping and doing good for others, they try to take advantage of them by abusing their kindness and unwillingness to say no.
Empaths and narcissists both have problems with setting boundaries. While the empath has an issue with establishing and maintaining boundaries, narcissists have a problem with respecting boundaries set by others. As an empath, you should never feel bad for saying no, let alone apologize for it.
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