Number 1: Narcissists will make you feel guilty for leaving them.
Narcissists rely on their victim’s guilt to maintain their power over them. They will try to make you feel guilty for leaving them. They may say things like: “I don’t know what I would do without you” or “You mean the world to me.” This is a classic tactic of narcissists who love to put others down to boost their self-esteem.
Narcissists are master manipulators who know how to act upon your emotions to get what they want from you. They don’t just want to make you feel bad, they want to make sure that you feel bad and they’ll do anything to make sure you do. The goal is not necessarily to get back together with them but to keep you emotionally attached.
Number 2: They act like they’re going to change.
One of the narcissist’s most powerful manipulation tools is acting like they will change. They will say things like: “I’m not like that anymore! I promise! Or “I’m so sorry baby, it’s just that I don’t know why I acted that way, it was all my fault.” The most important thing to remember about narcissists at this stage is that they will never actually change.
Narcissists will start to promise that things are going to be different. Still, when you ask them what changes they’ve made or what steps they have already taken, you get vague responses like: “I’m trying” or “well, I’ll start by doing…” You can never truly trust them again, for they are masters of deception and manipulation. They may have lied to you so many times before, they’ll double that once you’re trapped again.
Number 3: They will try to win you back with love bombing.
Narcissists will shower their ex-partners with affection, gifts, and attention, but these gestures are carefully calculated attempts by narcissists to win back their ex’s affections. This can be incredibly confusing for people who have just ended a relationship with a narcissist because it seems like they’re being nice when they aren’t.
Narcissists might send flowers or even buy you gifts. They’ll start by showering you with attention and compliments, but never let this fool you. A narcissist will tell you that you deserve all of these things again, but it’s only because the narcissist wants something from you. If narcissists can’t get what they want from you, they’ll try to make themselves look good by making sure everyone thinks they’re amazing.
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