4. YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR MEMORY IS LIKE.
Narcissists enjoy proving that others have bad memories. They have the capacity to change history if they do so. You must accept the narcissist’s version of events if you believe your memory is terrible. The narcissist’s perspective, of course, is significantly skewed in their favor. Something someone said or did in the past may be in conflict with what they say or do now. It’s no problem; the narcissist can argue that you misremembered. Though they did something selfish or wrong in the past, they can retell the event to make it appear as if they did the right thing this time, and if you trust them, you’ll begin to doubt your memory’s capabilities because they blame your bad memory for every change they make. Either directly or through a third party, if something feels wrong, it probably is, just like trusting your gut. Consider this: Does your memory fail you so frequently when you’re dealing with other people?
5. I DIDN’T SAY THAT.
It’s possible that denying what they said isn’t a sophisticated gaslighting word, but it has power since they are completely convinced while staring you in the eyes. It’s easy to doubt oneself when narcissists seem so certain they didn’t say anything, despite the fact that you obviously heard them and recall them clearly. The trick is that narcissists mislead themselves into believing they stated something different, and once they’ve persuaded themselves, it’ll be easy to persuade you. They can persuade themselves so well that they react with genuine rage to your accusations, even if they know you’re correct deep down.
6. YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE ON MY SIDE.
When a narcissist is in a disagreement with another person; they often use this gaslighting term. You also point out that the narcissist acted inappropriately. This honesty offends narcissists; they expect to be surrounded by supporters who support them no matter what. This demonstrates that they are unwilling to reflect on and develop themselves; they simply want to be assured they’re correct, even if they aren’t.
Narcissists frequently place their loved ones in a moral quandary. They don’t want to support someone who has done something bad, but they also don’t want to oppose a loved one. This leads some people to believe the narcissist is correct, even if they know deep down that they aren’t. But the truth is that anyone, regardless of their relationship with you, can make a mistake. If they’d acted immorally, they have no right to expect your constant support. That is unreasonable, unhealthy, and unfair.
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