4. You’re easily tense or anxious.
As the narcissist is trying to engage to see if you’re going to give them fuel, it may be that you’re the kind of person who just goes to your place of tension and anxiety way too quickly. If that’s the case and you just kind of have a nervousness about yourself, you speak with that individual, it could be that the narcissist is thinking, ‘Oh, good. You’re weak. This is an opportunity for me because I like hanging out with weak people. I like hanging with people who get tense and anxious because that means when I come off as strong and opinionated, you’ll collapse and you’ll crumble pretty quickly. Good to know.’
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5. In public, you do a good job…
The fifth thing that they may watch for that allows them to think they can see you as being their fuel, is they notice that when you’re in public, you do a really good job of covering up dysfunctions. It’s like, ‘Well, public opinion and having the proper image is so important to you.’ And I understand you can’t just go around and tell everybody in public all the things that are wrong, but if you’re the kind of person that really has to be right and be known correctly, the public image is everything to them. So they’re thinking, ‘Oh, good. I like being around someone like that. So that way, if there’s junk between you and me, you’re not going to go around and be selling. You’ll be part of my cover-up. I like that. I like that a lot.’
6. You are easily motivated by guilt.
A sixth thing that narcissists might pick up on, that is you’re easily motivated by guilt. How many times do you portray yourself as overly negative when something is happening? It may be something that happened yesterday or maybe something that happened 20 years ago where you’re too apologetic or you don’t seem to forgive yourself very easily. You kind of have this attitude that seems like you have to work off your demerits that are on your record. The narcissist picks up on that. It’s like, ‘Oh, easily motivated by guilt. I can make that work for me. I like it.’ And it feeds their soul when they know that about you.
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